A layer on top of the app you already use
The questions dating apps don't ask
A deep compatibility questionnaire, filled out a section at a time and reused with everyone you meet. Answers stay hidden by default — you see where you align, not what they said.
Up to 173 questions across 15 sections — about 25 minutes for all of it, or eight for the short version. Answer a section at a time.
One questionnaire, not one per person
You answer it once. It travels with you to every potential match, rather than being redone for each.
Short or long, and it's the same questionnaire
The short version is about five minutes: a pass over the ground that decides the most, leaving some areas out entirely. The full one adds the contingencies people usually discover years in. Every answer you give in the short one counts in the full one, so you can start small.
Two relationships, two questionnaires
A mixed-sex relationship and a same-sex one don't raise the same questions — who carries a pregnancy, whose biology, who provides when no convention decides it. Take whichever applies, or both: the second starts from the first, and you change only what's actually different.
Mutual or it doesn't count
An alignment registers only if each of you finds the other's answer acceptable. Acceptance in one direction is reported as exactly that.
No compatibility score
No percentage, no ranking. A list of where you actually align, ordered by how much each area matters to the two of you.
A section at a time
Nobody answers all of this in one sitting, and you don't have to. Finish a section and it can be compared as soon as the other person has finished it too — the rest can wait.
Nothing happens without consent
You ask; they agree; only then is anything compared. Each of you decides separately how much the other sees — and a question you hold back is still reported as a match or a clash, just never the answer.
What it covers
- About you
- The few facts that decide which later questions you're asked.
- Children
- Whether, when, how many — and what you'd each do when it doesn't go to plan.
- Lifestyle & trajectory
- Kids, career, where you live, and how fast any of it happens.
- Roles
- How traditional you want the shape of the relationship to be.
- Home & domestic life
- Pets, and who actually does the cooking, cleaning and childcare.
- Sport & physical activity
- How much of it you do, how much it matters, and how much of the week it takes.
- Habits & risk
- Smoking, drink, drugs, gambling, screens, and how much danger you court.
- Sex & intimacy
- Frequency, importance, what you'd do without it, and what you think it's for.
- Medical contingency
- Illness, infertility, disability, and mental health crises — the things nobody plans for.
- Financial contingency
- Income gaps, job loss, debt, risk, and who you are both quietly supporting.
- Fidelity & structure
- Not just monogamy — where exactly the line sits, and what happens when it's crossed.
- Conflict & repair
- What you're like when it goes wrong, and what you'd do about it.
- Values under pressure
- What you would do if a partner did something you had to decide about.
- Family obligation & estate
- Aging parents, caregiving, prenups, inheritance, and how assets split if it ends.
- Misc
- Things that mean nothing to most people and a great deal to some, and a few facts about you that don't belong anywhere else.